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I look at life with detachment and distance, like a window shopper. Not only I study the window but also my own reflections in it.

Specter of a Holocaust

Monday, August 29, 2005 Labels: 1 comments

Many of us have or would face depressing and unnerving situations, which arrive like a bolt from blue, without rhyme or reason. Such events normally do not come alone, but may pile up, one upon another - raising a specter of a life full of holocaust. How can one maintain one's sanity in such situations?

  • Near the event, things look to be grossly worse than they actually are. Stick to basics and facts of the events.

  • Don't:-

    • concentrate on emotions, pain, suffering.

    • spout philosophy.

    • blame others or circumstances.

    • try to find your own faults which lead to it.

    • try to spy out the motives of your tormentors.

    • try to figure out cause and effect chain leading to the event.

    • think of revenge - this thought will pull you deeper into abyss. Forget and forgive is for saints - impractical. Just put away the person or event, for the time being.

  • Discard the baggage of your religion (Hinduism for me) relating to above mentioned aspects. Religion is meant to give you a guilt feeling.

  • Spell out (or better write down), your feelings, beliefs, opinions.

  • Be stubborn, do not be a party to any dis-assertiveness or disrespect to you. Standup for yourself.

  • Finally write down what you need or want at the present moment, to put the event behind you.

  • Then go ahead and have a quite inner dialogue or meditate or pray if you like.

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